I knew I was in love with Jean Philippe an entire thirteen days after our first date. And I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him shortly after that.
Part of me was definitely nervous to share our engagement news with friends and family back home.
I had left the United States in August and by December, I was engaged!
But I had also left the United States very naïve and unsure about a lot of things in my life, and by the time I had returned I was positive about one thing in my life—my fiancé.
No matter what happens in life, I am absolutely sure I want him in mine.
Some friends and family members insisted that we give our relationship more time and “get to know each other.”
There is this idea that you should be dating someone for several years before you take the step of getting married.
And for some people, that may be the way to go.
But for other people, time doesn’t make something better. I see relationships that have been at it for a long time, and the couple is still miserable.
I don’t think you need a certain amount of time to know someone’s heart.
I know that I didn’t need more time to be sure about my relationship and its future.
Time doesn’t necessarily make things better or more right.
Of course, it isn’t always that simple. I know relationships take work. But we are both committed and in love.
So, when people tell us to wait a little longer, my answer is…
I’m not sure why people feel others’ relationships are their own responsibility or business.
I know people may have their concerns, but the truth of the matter is our marriage is really not up to them.
I know what I want and Jean Philippe knows what he wants.
So, we’ve decided to stop justifying our decision to other people!
We’re going to be happy about our engagement and our marriage.
Because in the end, those are the only opinions that really matter.